I’m going to go out on a limb and say that we all think we’re unique. Even if you don’t say it out loud, we want to believe that we’re different from another person in some way. It’s our identity. What makes you “you”.
More often, than not, we don’t have a strong enough sense of self to own that uniqueness and present it outside of our selves.
Meaning… we have a tendency to want to be like someone else. To fit in. To not be seen as different… or at least too different.
So what happens? We lose our sense of self. We no longer appear unique or special. What’s so special about you vs. someone else? What makes you different? What makes you stand out?
Sometimes, we can be so afraid to show our true selves because of fear of criticism, that we are willing to be unhappy and fit it versus doing what we REALLY want to do or be and let the cards fall where they may.
This is scary, I think. To say out loud… I want _____. Without apology. Without feeling like you don’t deserve what you want.
Quick example. I’m a loud person. A really loud laugher. I used to be super self conscious of this. Always worried that I’m laughing too loud or how I look when I laugh. So, I would avoid laughing. Trying to act serious and be someone that I’m not.
That’s crap. I laugh easily. It’s who I am. I find joy in the world. I love to laugh and have fun. I will laugh loud if that’s what happens. That’s the way I am. I own it. It’s my quirk. Either accept me or move on. And people identify me with my laugh. I saw an old co-worker the other day and he said “I miss your laugh in the office.” That made me smile.
You are unique and special. Let that special quality shine. It’s you. When you let your spirit out of its cage… you will feel a happiness that you may have forgotten.
PS. I created the outfit based on this mood board.