Smoke and Mirrors - Daily Confidence 21

I love the TV show Frankie and Grace. Or is it Grace and Frankie? I can never get it straight. Anyway, it stars Jane Fonda and Lily Tomlin. These 2 women look amazing. They’re both in their 70s and look incredible. Jane Fonda wows me every time she’s on camera. I think, “Man. She looks GOOD.” Not just hair and face, but body too.

I want to look as good and healthy as these 2 women when I’m in my 70s.

But you know what? What I see on TV or in a photograph, isn’t real. Jane Fonda is wearing makeup that is masterfully done and has hair stylists that give her youthful hair. She has had some work done on her face. What I see on screen is smoke and mirrors.

In fact, there is an episode where she removes all of her makeup on screen and she looks her age. I still think she’s vibrant and beautiful, but the perfection was removed with the makeup. I didn’t want to be surprised, but I was. And fascinated at how easily we can be convinced that these beautiful people we see on the screen are the norm. That somehow they must always look like that and that’s the bar we set for ourselves.

I admit that I fall into that trap sometimes too.

The photo you see in this post is from a photo shoot over the summer. I look at the photos and I see me, but a really amazing version of me that would take extreme effort to keep up. I had a hair and makeup artist. Perfect lighting. We had pins and clips holding my clothes in ways to be more flattering on set. I look incredible in the photos.

But that’s not me everyday. It was so much fun to dress up and to have a team make me look dazzling, but my selfies look nothing like the professional photos. And that’s ok.

We can be so hard on ourselves. We are, in fact, the HARDEST on ourselves. We compare how we look to someone else. Sometimes it might be, well at least I don’t look like THAT. Or it might be, I wish I looked more like her. But who you are right now IS perfect. You are real. You are authentic. You are beautiful. It’s fun to dress up, but that is just an enhanced version of the amazing person you already are.

Talk to you tomorrow!

*HUGS*

Jen Thoden

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